How to Overcome Depression

How to Overcome Depression on Your Own 

If you can’t be a pine on the top of the hill,
Be a scrub in the valley — but be
The best little scrub by the side of the rill;
Be a bush if you can’t be a tree.
If you can’t be a bush be a bit of the grass,
And some highway happier make;
If you can’t be a muskie then just be a bass —
But the liveliest bass in the lake!
We can’t all be captains, we’ve got to be crew,
There’s something for all of us here,
There’s big work to do, and there’s lesser to do,
And the task you must do is the near.
If you can’t be a highway then just be a trail,
If you can’t be the sun be a star;
It isn’t by size that you win or you fail —
Be the best of whatever you are!
Douglas Malloch

This is a guide based on my own experience, and although it may not help you entirely, I am sure bits and pieces of it will spark something in you to push through the nightmare you’re experiencing. You’re reading this because you’ve either stumbled upon it by accident (and by some miracle it is actually something you’re experiencing and this post was an answer to your plea for help), or you’ve searched for it yourself. Either way, you’re here because you need help. First, I am sorry you have to go through this. Second, the world is not against you. 
It is not an easy journey back to life, it is difficult. It is taking two steps forward and one step back. The first step is the hardest, and the last step is the lightest. This is your first step.  
Leaving Depression Behind: My Personal Guide
 1. Realizing that you’re actually not living life, but crawling your way through it: 
There is a quote that I really like that somehow felt like it fit perfectly with what happened in my own life.
“I just woke up one day and decided that I didn’t want to feel like this anymore. So I changed.” 
It all comes down how you really feel about what is happening in your life. It’s hard to breathe somedays, and sleep does feel a lot better than life ever will, but you need to realize that it is not how life should be spent. Life is meant to feel good. You need to ask yourself one question, “What, right now, would make me feel good?” 
It could be anything. Maybe spending time with your friends, blasting music until your neighbors call the cops. It could be writing, or singing, or even taking a stroll in nature. Decide on that, and do it, even if it’s hard. Any moment of happiness is worth it. 
2. Let quotes become your best friends: 
I spent a lot of time browsing through things that I can relate to, but it mostly drowned me into more depression. The kind of quotes I was reading made me relate more to all the things I was experiencing. It’s like I was finally understood. Sometimes it feels good to be understood without being questioned. However, at some point you need to put down those “Yeah, she’s smiling but she’s dying inside.” words.
I found pages at some point that had a more positive message to share, and that was the hand that pulled me out of my misery. It took me 3 years, and a lot of set backs. I will admit, to this day I may still fall into it but it’s not like it is before. This time I know how to get out. Two steps forward, one step back.
I found a lot of positive pages, and people like Osho, and Gandhi. I’ve read a lot on spirituality, and how to deal with sadness and feelings. I’ve learned that I cannot let feelings control me, no matter how big they got. In the end of the day, I wasn’t what I was experiencing. I am what is witnessing the experience. 

The very word is meaningful – it says something is being pressed; that is the meaning of depressed. You are pressing something inside, and when anger is pressed too much it becomes sadness. Sadness is a negative way of being angry, the feminine way of being angry.

If you remove the pressure on it, it will become anger. You must have been angry about certain things from your childhood but you have not expressed them, hence the depression. Try to understand it! And the problem is that depression cannot be solved, because it is not the real problem. The real problem is anger – and you go on condemning depression, so you are fighting with shadows.

First look at why you are depressed…look deep into it and you will find anger. Great anger is in you…maybe towards your mother, towards your father, towards the world, towards yourself, that is not the point. You are very angry inside, and from the very childhood you have tried to be smiling, not to be angry. That is not good. You have been taught and you have learned it well. So on the surface you look happy, on the surface you go on smiling, and all those smiles are false. Deep down you are holding great rage. Now, you cannot express it so you are sitting upon it – that is what depression is; then you feel depressed. (source)  (another osho-book source)


3. It takes time: You won’t wake up feeling amazing (except maybe happy that you’re doing something again). I can promise you that. It takes work, it takes so much work and it gets exhausting sometimes. At times you will want to give up. It gets better though, and that I can promise too. The feeling of trying to get yourself back on your feet is what makes it worthwhile. Things will come into focus at some point, and the way the sun makes the clouds look pink will be pretty. 
4. It will take as much effort to be sad as it is to be happy. Happy people weren’t born happy, happy people make a choice to be positive. Sometimes trying to be happy feels like a full-time job, and other times it’s weightless and free.
5. Smile. The act of smiling will make you a happier person. “In 1988, Strack had shown that movements of the face lead to movements of the mind. He’d proved that emotion doesn’t only go from the inside out but from the outside in.”(Source).
6. Take up a new hobby, start exercising (fastest way to feel happier), learn how to cook and bake a cake. The idea is you can do anything. 
7. It is okay to ask for help because even though you can do a lot on your own, you will need someone to support you. The power of emotional support goes beyond anything that can be accomplished alone. Tell the most trusted person in your life, and allow them to help you. Loving words can fix you, I promise. 
8. If you’re into going out and exploring the world, do it more often, and record every moment of the way. Good memories will light up your brain and spread a lovely feeling.
9. Wouldn’t it be nice to just feel okay in your own skin? Would it not be nice to love even the darkest part of yourself? You aren’t at your best, and it seems like this tunnel will never end, but you can believe in yourself. You are either your best friend or worst enemy, which side do you want to choose? 
10. A read.  
I stumbled upon a book. It was brought into my life at the moment I needed it. This book transforms the way you think about yourself, and the way you think about the world. Your current problems will become non-existent. This book is the guide to bliss. I recommend it 100%, and there is no other book I’d recommend as well as this one.
The best way to read this book is with a highlighter and always come back to it. It’s not a one-time read.
“If you want to be happy, you have to let go of the part of you that wants to create melodrama. This is the part that thinks there’s a reason not to be happy. You have to transcend the personal, and as you do, you will naturally awaken to the higher aspects of your being. In the end, enjoying life’s experiences is the only rational thing to do. You’re sitting on a planet spinning around in the middle of absolutely nowhere. Go ahead, take a look at reality. You’re floating in empty space in a universe that goes on forever. If you have to be here, at least be happy and enjoy the experience. You’re going to die anyway. Things are going to happen anyway. Why shouldn’t you be happy? You gain nothing by being bothered by life’s events. It doesn’t change the world; you just suffer. There’s always going to be something that can bother you, if you let it.”
Michael A. Singer, The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
“To get some distance from this, you first need to get some perspective. Walk outside on a clear night and just look up into the sky. You are sitting on a planet spinning around in the middle of absolutely nowhere. Though you can only see a few thousand stars, there are hundreds of billions of stars in our Milky Way Galaxy alone. In fact, it is estimated that there are over a trillion stars in the Spiral Galaxy. And that galaxy would look like one star to us, if we could even see it. You’re just standing on one little ball of dirt and spinning around one of the stars. From that perspective, do you really care what people think about your clothes or your car? Do you really need to feel embarrassed if you forget someone’s name? How can you let these meaningless things cause pain? If you want out, if you want a decent life, you had better not devote your life to avoiding psychological pain. You had better not spend your life worrying about whether people like you or whether your car impresses people. What kind of life is that? It is a life of pain. You may not think that you feel pain that often, but you really do. To spend your life avoiding pain means it’s always right behind you.”
Michael A. Singer, The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself

In the end, I hope that you find a way to breathe again. 




10 thoughts on “How to Overcome Depression

  1. recovery girl says:

    Thank you for liking my blog. I don’t know how you found me, but I’m glad I found you.

    This post speaks volumes to me. It is helping me in making my decisions and deciding to be happy. My husband and I were just discussing my depression and negative thinking this morning.

    Thank you again. And please keep writing. Peace.

    Liked by 1 person

      • Jacey says:

        ViRkaiexro.tI desired to thank you for this fantastic read !! I most definitely appreciating every bit of it I have you bookmarked to check out brand-new things you post …


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